Blue

Sitting here trying to pick out a word that fits my state of mind...and there it was, blue. Ordinarily, to me, blue is a good thing. It's my favorite color so often I'm dressed in blue, I go near water to make myself feel better and when I think of blue, it's usually healing.

Right now though, I am in a blue funk, period of time, or feeling. It's been a rough couple of weeks, I've been fighting through a protracted illness, mostly bronchitis, but it has really hung on. One of my family members has been hospitalized multiple times due to a heart condition, and another family member is in hospice about to give up his fight.

Finally, tomorrow will be the day on which my friend Eric, should have celebrated his 45th birthday. Eric loved blue too...On the first day of my junior year in high school, I had to suddenly change schools. We moved that summer and I was distraught about losing my teachers and friends. I've never been a person who makes friends easily so I always cherish the people that I do connect with.

Eric was one of those people. I encountered him the first time in Madame Tavera's 2nd period French II class. Yes, I know I live in Florida so why did I take French? It's an easy answer, they moved me because they shut down the German class that was my first choice. I rarely do the conventional thing, like take Spanish because you live in Florida. Eric would totally understand that. He never did anything conventional either which explains why he ignored all of the prettier, well-turned out girls in class to talk to the nearsighted blond with tear streaks still on her glasses. He asked me how I was doing even though it was pretty apparent that I wasn't happy, and I wish I could remember exactly what he said, but I recall he kept telling me jokes until I laughed and cheered up.

He was the first of many artistic types of people I would meet in school, yet Eric is the person that stands out in my mind the most because he never lost his inordinate kindness, his passion for his art and he never compromised to 'fit in'.

I think of Eric a great deal when I am doing improv, knowing how much he would love it, how he and I were actually improvising long before I ever knew what it was. He would love the irreverence, the lack of rules and the unbridled creativity it engenders.

I should point out that Eric was never my boyfriend, we simply weren't 'that way' together, but we just seemed to get each other. I wasn't even one of his closest friends, but it seems that whenever he was down, he'd find his way over to my computer in the newspaper office or my desk in classes and I would return the favor, telling him jokes until he smiled. I always tried to see his art shows and I was always awed at what he'd created.

About a month before he died at the age of 21, I ran into him at a local Subway and we made tentative plans to meet again to 'catch up' but I didn't follow up. I cannot even articulate how much regret and how many times I've thought of that, wishing it had been different. The circumstances of his death are grisly and I simply don't think this is the place to recant them.

Eric's influences are many. For instance, I always name my cars because he called his car Sharona and I thought that was the greatest. If I see people who seem distressed or unhappy, I talk to them first, always remembering what Eric did for me. Whenever I hear, well, just about anything on 1st Wave on Sirius XM, I think of him, but in particular, "What Have I Done to Deserve This" by Pet Shop Boys/Dusty Springfield, and Morrissey songs.

I wish so much that I could know what he would have been like in his 40's. I mourn the art he should have created, and every time I write this blog or challenge myself at improv or spend time in a gallery, I try in my own way to honor what he taught me.

So today, I'm blue. And I am going to ride it out. Maybe there are just times when you need to mourn to appreciate life for what it is and cherish the people who are here and the ones who are never really gone as long as you remember them.